Family Relationship Mediation (FRM) is a specialist type of mediation to support the re-building of relationships between family members, in particular between children, young people and their parents or other primary care givers.
Sometimes referred to as Parent Child Mediation.
FRM is for those families who are looking to rebuild relationships together. Family members may be having some difficulties, misunderstandings, or conflict that they are struggling to resolve, and they may be looking for some support to have the difficult discussions that really need to take place.
Relationships within families can often become strained. Clashes of lifestyle, communication problems, coupled with people’s different standards and aspirations, and divided loyalties and conflict arising out of parental separation can lead to serious conflict and potentially damaging consequences.
Mediation helps people in families to have a better conversation with your family members, to fix relationships, to open up new dialogue, and to find a way for everyone to get on better, whatever that means for them.
A lot of the time, people can sort out family arguments just by talking things through, although when things become more serious, they might benefit from additional help to get their relationships back on track. This is when they would call in a family relationships mediator.
The mediator will open up dialogue between family members and will aim to repair their relationships so that the family can stay together: avoiding family breakdown and ultimately preventing homelessness.
The types of conflicts that family relationships mediation can address:
- Clashes of lifestyle between parents and young people
- Differing values
- When parents are separated, and a child or young person’s relationships has become fractured with one or both parents.
- Access to the home, timekeeping
- Issues arising from re-structured families and incoming stepchildren
- Tidiness and personal conduct
What we need from families choosing to participate
For everyone with parental responsibility to be on board with the young person taking part in the process, and to support them to attend all appointments.
To keep within the momentum of the process. One of the important things about this process is that it is important that once the process starts for there not to be a delay in the meetings happening.
We ask both parents to commit to ensuring the child or young person is able to be available to attend appointments within a few weeks and for the young person to be able to be free to make his or her own decisions, and for their views to be respected.
We have extensive experience in training and delivering Family Relationship Mediation to prevent relationship breakdown, prevent the risk of children/young people needing to move out of the family home prematurely, reconnect family members who have been operated by conflict, and may at times to support the transition for young people into independence with the support of the family.
It is very important that everyone chooses to attend mediation, and whilst it isn’t necessary to have consent from both parents for a young person to attend if they are Fraser competent we do prefer that both parents give their full support to them particiapting.
Where a young person is Gillick or Fraser component they are able to choose to volunteer to attend without the consent of their parents
When the mediator is trying to decide whether a child is mature enough to make decisions, they will consider whether the child or young person is ‘Gillick competent’ or whether they meet the ‘Fraser guidelines’.
The discussions in mediation will be kept confidential between the family.
- Mediation lets you keep matters private
- Mediation is informal
- Mediation means that no-one ‘loses’
- Mediation gets quick results
- In mediation the family taking part decides what happens and no-one tells you what to do
- In between mediation appointments the mediator will make sure that all communication and correspondence is shared between everyone taking part in the mediation.