Arrangements for Children

All our mediators are accredited Family Mediators qualified and registered to undertake MIAMs and pre court Mediation

Child Arrangements  (child contact issues)

Family Mediation helps parents or carers to focus on their children’s needs moving forward, which assists them to reach well-informed decisions that are practical and seem fair to each of you. We won’t take sides or try to influence your decisions in any way.

The majority of issues in relation to Child arrangements are resolved within 2 meetings, in some more complex cases this can be up 3 sessions.

We can discuss:

  • where the children will live – residence
  • how care will be shared between parents – contact and residence
  • arrangements for school holidays and special events throughout the year such as Christmas
  • the best way for parents to communicate about issues concerning your children
  • how both parents can best support the children both financially and emotionally

After you met with the mediator separately and have both agreed to come into Mediation the mediator will set up the first joint meeting*. A first mediation meeting about child arrangements is normally 1.5hrs.

Both parents work together with the mediator to identify what needs to be settled, explore the options available, discuss individual and collective concerns, and consider options to reaching a mutually agreeable way forward on the things you each feel need to be resolved.

Where appropriate we also discuss with you both the option of speaking to the children

Family Mediation helps you as the parents to stay in control over the decisions for your children, without the need for these decisions to be settled through solicitors or in court. Even if your case has already gone to court, its not too consider mediation.

We achieve successful outcomes in over 80% of of our Mediations so you can be sure you are in the best hands.

*We recognise that a joint meeting isn’t always the best way to set things up and we can offer alternative options depending on your circumstances and what the mediator thinks will work best in your circumstances.

Help for children can be found at kids in the middle.

For more information about how to make the best use of mediation you can go here to the government website:

Citizens Advice can also help you


CAFCASS are specialist Social Workers who advise the court about the options available for children and young people. CAFCASS provide information and advice online to support parents to find a better alternative to court.

Confidentiality in mediation

The Mediation meetings are confidential, that means unless there are safeguarding concerns that the discussions in mediation can’t be referred to outside of mediation, and specifically can’t be used in court. This protects everyone and enables you to have open and honest conversations without worry that it will be used against you. A court can’t look at anything that is said within mediation. Everyone taking part in mediation will have to confirm that they understand the need for confidentiality. The mediator can’t keep anything you say or send to them in between mediation sessions confidential, everything has to be shared between you.